Category Archives: Relationships

Purr-fect Wisdom: 6 Life Lessons from Master Percy

NYC Mediator Susan Ingram of www.susan-ingram.com uses her cat to share some life lessons that can benefit all.

I recently added a beautiful Siberian cat to my household. This is not the first time I’ve decided to share my life with a feline. I’ve owned two other cats before this, spanning a total of 20 years. It’s been over a year since my last cat died. A few months ago I decided to take the leap once more and introduce a new fellow, this time dubbed Percy, into my life.

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Creating Daily “Listening Time” with Your Child

NYC divorce and family mediator Susan Ingram of susan-ingram.com discusses the importance of creating time every day to actively listen to your child.

An article that recently appeared in HuffPost Parents entitled “The Most Important 10 Minutes of a Child’s Day” triggered my own thoughts about supporting our children’s emotional well-being. The suggestions of the author, Kenneth Barish, Ph.D., a clinical associate professor of psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University, were simple, yet very meaningful.

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What’s the Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy?

What's the Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy? by Susan Ingram

Please take a look at the video below, The Power of Empathy, which was produced by RSA Shorts. In just three short minutes, it explains the power of empathy in an extremely creative and humorous way. Enjoy viewing it – and then  continue on with my article, as I share with you some of my own thoughts on this subject.

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“AND” – One Little Word that Can Make a Big Difference

Worried couple talking about their expenses

I’m going to share with you a simple tip that can significantly change the focus of your conversations and make them more productive. It has to do with the word “and.” By consciously choosing when and how you include “and” in your conversations, you can go from frustrating exchanges that don’t get anywhere to discussions that explore options and come up with viable solutions.

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6 Tips for Resolving Conflicts

6 Tips for Resolving Conflicts By Susan Ingram

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. We have to think with a new mind. ~ Albert Einstein

In the broadest sense of the word, “conflict” is…any situation in which one person’s concerns or desires differ from those of another person and appear to be incompatible. Conflict is inevitable, but how we handle it is a choice. That’s true whether we’re dealing with conflict in our private lives (with our partner, children, other family members, friends) or in our work lives (with our colleagues or other professionals).

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The Many Faces of Mediation: Elder Parents & Adult Siblings

The Many Faces of Mediation: Elder Parents & Adult Siblings By Susan Ingram

While most people have heard of divorce mediation, far fewer are aware that mediation can also be extremely helpful in discussing difficult issues that arise with respect to elder parents and their adult children.

There are many concerns that need to be addressed as a parent ages.

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The Many Faces of Mediation: Family Businesses

The Many Faces of Mediation: Family Businesses By Susan Ingram

By their very nature, family businesses can be especially challenging to manage successfully. First, there are the normal (and not so normal) demands and pressures of running a business. But then, superimpose on that the complex relational issues that arise within a family structure . . . and you have the makings of what could potentially be a very difficult work environment.

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The Many Faces of Mediation: Couples and Families

The Many Faces of Mediation: Couples and Families By Susan Ingram

I published an article recently about marital mediation in the context of couples who have been working with a family or couples therapist. Since this is such an important and little understood subject, I would like to take the opportunity to explain this process from a broader perspective.

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Marital Mediation – What is it?

Susan Ingram of susan-ingram.com explains what martial mediation is and how she can help married couples resolve difficult issues.

Very little has been written to date about an intriguing and ‘new’ use of mediation in the family setting. Most people have heard about divorce mediation, which gives divorcing couples the opportunity to reach agreements about their property, parenting and support without having to go through a litigated (contested) divorce. The mediator, who is neutral, facilitates the conversations the couple needs to have, and helps them brainstorm options – enabling them to come up with better, win-win solutions for themselves and their children.

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The Benefits of Mediator Mind

It’s fascinating how, as we grow older and wiser, certain ‘truisms’ repeatedly appear in our lives. As I’ve broadened in my professional life from being a lawyer to working as a life coach and mediator, I’ve found this particularly to be the case. I now see clearly how there are certain underlying principles that govern both my professional and personal life. I like to refer to this as Mediator Mind.

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