Category Archives: Mediation – Essential Elements

Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children

Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}   I just finished a mediation session with a divorcing couple who have a special needs child, in addition to two typically-developing children. While divorces involving special needs children are often complicated and involve more issues than the “normal” divorce, I find helping these families to be especially rewarding.

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I’m Right — and You’re Wrong!

I’m Right — and You’re Wrong! by Susan Ingram

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I just attended a monthly peer group meeting with my mediation colleagues. One of the subjects that came up, and generated a lively discussion, was the need we humans have “to be right.” Which typically means that the other person must be wrong when he or she doesn’t agree with us.

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What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce?

What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{Read in 1:10 minutes}  A mediation colleague of mine, Rachel Alexander, recently posted an excellent blog explaining why mediation is the best process for divorcing couples, especially when each of the parties is at a different stage of wanting, or not wanting, the divorce.

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The Gray Divorce – Part 2

The Gray Divorce - Part 2 by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}  In my last blog, I wrote about the general phenomenon of the Gray Divorce. This trend is continuing to grow as adults in their 50s, 60s and older divorce their spouses, frequently after many years of marriage. There are unique issues that need to be addressed by a couple that decides to divorce at this later stage of life.

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What is Meant by a Gray Divorce? Part 1

What is Meant by a Gray Divorce? Part 1 by Susan Ingram

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You may have heard the term Gray Divorce and wondered what it meant. Typically, it refers to older adults who, in their 50s, 60s and older, have divorced their spouses.

Research reveals that the divorce rate for this age group has spiked significantly over the past twenty years. Two decades ago, adults 50 and older accounted for about 10% of divorces. Today, the divorce rate for this group has risen to nearly 25%, with half of those divorces occurring in long-term first marriages.

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3 Common Myths About Divorce Mediation

3 Common Myths About Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read}     Recently, I wrote a blog entitled “Divorce Mediation and the Pigeonhole Effect.” In that article, I spoke about the way divorce mediation has unjustifiably been “pigeonholed” by some professionals as being an effective approach for couples in conflict only in very limited situations. Now I’d like to expand upon my earlier discussion by identifying what I see as 3 of the most common misconceptions regarding mediation.

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Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process

Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process by Susan Ingram

{3:48 minutes to read}   Divorce mediation, as opposed to a contested divorce (in which each spouse hires an attorney and fights it out through the court system), is often a better choice for couples. When a couple decides to divorce, they need to begin the process of “disentangling” from each other. They can either approach this task in a humane and constructive way (which mediation supports), or they can let it degenerate into increased anger and animosity (which litigation often results in).

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Divorce Mediation and the Communication Trap

Divorce Mediation and the Communication Trap By Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  Earlier this year, one of my mediation couples was in the middle of a discussion as to how they were going to divide their financial assets. They had agreed to divide their bank and investment accounts equally and each retain their own retirement accounts. They then turned to the subject of the annual bonus the husband was scheduled to receive from his employer at the end of December.

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Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}   What’s so special about divorce mediation? Plenty! Check out these Questions and Answers and you’ll understand why mediation may be the best choice for a divorcing couple.

What is divorce mediation?

It is a voluntary settlement process used by couples who want to separate or divorce.

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