Category Archives: Mediation – Essential Elements

Power Imbalances in Divorce Mediation

Power Imbalances in Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read} One of the basic requirements of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial. Certainly, this means that the mediator should not be taking sides or favoring either party. But it also means that the mediator may need to be more directive at times to ensure the integrity of the parties’ decision-making.

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Why Are Budgets Necessary in Divorce Mediation?

Why Are Budgets Necessary in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

{3 minutes to read}  Budget preparation, ugh! I know… even in the best of times, this is not exactly an enjoyable task that people look forward to. Yet, it’s something that is absolutely imperative when a couple is separating or divorcing.

When I first meet with couples, I review the main topics that we will be discussing during the mediation process.

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The “What-If?” Scenarios

The “What-If?” Scenarios by Susan Ingram

{4 minutes to read}  One of the most important functions I can perform for my divorcing clients is to help them work through the various “What If?” scenarios as they make their decisions in mediation. A “What If?” scenario is an exploration of various possible outcomes to a question that has been raised in regard to an important issue. Exploring the options will facilitate reaching the best decision for a couple.

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Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator

Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator by Susan Ingram

{3:48 minutes to read}  If you’re choosing mediation for your divorce, in many instances it makes good sense to use a mediator who is also an attorney. An attorney/mediator who specializes in divorce law will be knowledgeable of the divorce statutes and case law, and can (and should) share that information with clients. Then, when the couple is ready to proceed with having their settlement agreement drafted, the attorney can prepare the agreement for them.

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Empathy or Sympathy: What’s the Difference?

{2:54 minutes to read}  With all the conflict and negativity in the world right now, I feel like a refresher blog on the subject of empathy is in order. I came upon this short video, The Power of Empathy, four years ago. It continues to be as delightful and fresh as when it first appeared. And, it accomplishes its task in only 3 short minutes of viewing time! So I invite you to click on the image below, enjoy the video, and then continue with the rest of my article.

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Chinese Insights on the Art of Listening

Chinese Insights on the Art of Listening By Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read}  During the holidays especially, we all seem to be doing more while at the same time finding less time and patience to accomplish what needs to be done. Our interactions and conversations with family, friends and others can end up being strained and less productive than usual. So I thought this was a good opportunity to re-introduce some concepts I’ve written about before on the subject of Active Listening.

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