The “good enough” agreement does not meet the criteria of the perfect agreement for either party. It does, however, meet many (but not all) of the needs of each of them – which is a good thing. It’s a living and breathing document that describes the reality of their situation now and into the future, and enables them to move forward, positively and constructively, with their lives.
In prior videos and blogs, I’ve individually discussed the many reasons why mediation is the best process for divorce. In this video, I view mediation from a broader perspective, outlining 5 key advantages for making the decision to mediate your divorce.
Decision-making is an important aspect of divorce mediation. In mediation, your mediator supports and guides you in your discussions as the two of you make all of the decisions related to your divorce. This is preferable to what happens in a litigated divorce, in which the judge and your separate attorneys are the ones who make the decisions.
Though email has become an integral part of life, there are situations where using email is not appropriate. It works fine for many simple exchanges of information, but not for the substantive and more emotionally charged conversations that happen during divorce mediation. This video explains why.
The way in which we listen to others in our conversations with them is extremely important. We can choose Active Listening, which will bring us closer to true dialogue and understanding, Or we can choose Internal Listening, which will not further the dialogue or lead to resolution of the differences between people.
Recently, I wrote a blog entitled “Divorce Mediation and the Pigeonhole Effect.” In that article, I spoke about the way divorce mediation has unjustifiably been “pigeonholed” by some professionals as being an effective approach for couples in conflict only in very simple situations. This video expands upon my earlier blog, identifying what I see as three of the most common misconceptions regarding mediation.
A basic requirement of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial. At the same time, the mediator must be attentive to any power imbalances that exist between the parties. Even though a neutral, the mediator will support the person with less power or knowledge so that he or she can participate fully…
Rarely when I see a couple for our first mediation session do I find they’re “on the same page” regarding the end of their marriage. Often one spouse is ahead of the other in contemplating the prospect of divorce. See how this disparity plays out in the mediation process.