Category Archives: Mediation – Essential Elements

Who Makes the Decisions in Divorce Mediation? [VIDEO]

Who Makes the Decisions in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

Decision-making is an important aspect of divorce mediation. In mediation, your mediator supports and guides you in your discussions as the two of you make all of the decisions related to your divorce. This is preferable to what happens in a litigated divorce, in which the judge and your separate attorneys are the ones who make the decisions.

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No, We Cannot Mediate Your Divorce by Email! [VIDEO]

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Though email has become an integral part of life, there are situations where using email is not appropriate. It works fine for many simple exchanges of information, but not for the substantive and more emotionally charged conversations that happen during divorce mediation. This video explains why.

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What’s the Difference Between Active and Internal Listening? [VIDEO]

Are You Sure You’re Really Listening? by Susan Ingram

The way in which we listen to others in our conversations with them is extremely important. We can choose Active Listening, which will bring us closer to true dialogue and understanding, Or we can choose Internal Listening, which will not further the dialogue or lead to resolution of the differences between people.

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3 Myths About Divorce Mediation [VIDEO]

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Recently, I wrote a blog entitled “Divorce Mediation and the Pigeonhole Effect.” In that article, I spoke about the way divorce mediation has unjustifiably been “pigeonholed” by some professionals as being an effective approach for couples in conflict only in very simple situations. This video expands upon my earlier blog, identifying what I see as three of the most common misconceptions regarding mediation.

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A Good Mediator is Sensitive to Imbalances of Power [VIDEO]

Susan Ingram | Power Imbalances in Mediation

A basic requirement of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial.  At the same time, the mediator must be attentive to any power imbalances that exist between the parties. Even though a neutral, the mediator will support the person with less power or knowledge so that he or she can participate fully…

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