Category Archives: Mediation – Essential Elements

Chinese Insights on the Art of Listening

Chinese Insights on the Art of Listening By Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read}  During the holidays especially, we all seem to be doing more while at the same time finding less time and patience to accomplish what needs to be done. Our interactions and conversations with family, friends and others can end up being strained and less productive than usual. So I thought this was a good opportunity to re-introduce some concepts I’ve written about before on the subject of Active Listening.

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What are the Foundational Requirements for Mediation?

{2:48 minutes to read}  When you take it down to the bare bones, there are really only two essential elements that must be present in order for a mediation to be viable and ultimately productive: Willingness to Dialogue and Full Disclosure.

Willingness to Dialogue

First, there needs to be a basic willingness to come together and talk to each other.

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5 Key Elements of the Mediation Process

Susan Ingram, Esq of www.susan-ingram.com discusses the divorce mediation process and a mediator's role in it.

{2:48 minutes to read}  There are two principal aspects to the role a mediator plays when helping couples going through divorce mediation. One has to do with the process and the other has to do with the substance.

Process relates to the framework and ground rules that are established by the mediator so that the necessary conversations can take place and move along, ultimately to resolution.

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Further Thoughts on Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi

{2:00 minutes to read} Recently, I published an article entitled Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi. In my article I shared a wonderful metaphor of beauty and strength, demonstrated by the “golden” repairs the old Japanese masters made to their bowls and other pottery when these pieces were damaged.
In a comment on my blog, a colleague asked if I was familiar with the song “Japanese Bowl,” written by Peter Mayer.

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6 Basic Tips for Handling Conflict

6 Basic Tips for Handling Conflict by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  While conflict in our lives is inevitable, how we handle it is ultimately our choice. That’s true whether we’re dealing with conflict in our private lives (with our partner, children, other family members, friends) or in our work lives (with our colleagues or other professionals).

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Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi

Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi by Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read}  Kintsugi is a centuries-old Japanese master craft for repairing broken pottery with lacquer mixed with powdered gold. If you’ve ever been to a museum exhibit of old Japanese ceramics, you may have noticed the patterns of gold veins that run through some of the pieces. These pieces had been broken at some point, and the gold clearly shows where the repairs had been made as the master craftsman put the piece back together again.

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The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible

The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible by Susan Ingram

{3:00 minutes to read}  The discussions I lead my couples through in mediation need to be structured, but they also need to be open to “fluid thinking.” By that, I mean the type of thinking that allows for the continued interplay between the various decisions that must be made.

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How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce?

How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{4:24 minutes to read}  Not infrequently, when someone first calls me to discuss the possibility of divorce mediation, they will mention that they have not yet brought up the subject with their spouse. The caller (the initiating spouse) typically describes a marriage that has not been good for some time; the marriage no longer works for him or her and it needs to come to an end.

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