“It’s not what you look at that matters. It’s what you see.” ~Henry David Thoreau
What’s perception got to do with it? Everything! Thoreau couldn’t have said it any better. To illustrate this concept on a very personal level, I would like to share with you an experience I had nearly eight years ago. To this day, I continue to reap profound benefits from it.
I recently added a beautiful Siberian cat to my household. This is not the first time I’ve decided to share my life with a feline. I’ve owned two other cats before this, spanning a total of 20 years. It’s been over a year since my last cat died. A few months ago I decided to take the leap once more and introduce a new fellow, this time dubbed Percy, into my life.
I’m going to share with you a simple tip that can significantly change the focus of your conversations and make them more productive. It has to do with the word “and.” By consciously choosing when and how you include “and” in your conversations, you can go from frustrating exchanges that don’t get anywhere to discussions that explore options and come up with viable solutions.
Enjoy this humorous video created by Joseph Pelling, a British animator and illustrator. The video can be viewed at Vimeo.com.
This is the time of year when many of us have adopted New Year’s resolutions. Just as quickly as we create them, we often end up breaking them. But what if, instead of following our old patterns, we made another type of resolution. What if we chose just one of our resolutions that would otherwise go by the wayside, and applied a different kind of reasoning to it, what I call outside-the-box thinking. Much like the approach taken in Joseph Pelling’s amusing video.
It’s fascinating how, as we grow older and wiser, certain ‘truisms’ repeatedly appear in our lives. As I’ve broadened in my professional life from being a lawyer to working as a life coach and mediator, I’ve found this particularly to be the case. I now see clearly how there are certain underlying principles that govern both my professional and personal life. I like to refer to this as Mediator Mind.