Life Lessons from a Knee Operation – Part 1
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My body has been teaching me a very powerful lesson that I am still in the process of deciphering. Although my thoughts are still percolating, I’d like to share my initial challenges and insights with you, my readers.
This part of my journey started about 4 months ago when I had an operation to have total knee replacement on both of my knees.
Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator
{3:48 minutes to read} If you’re choosing mediation for your divorce, in many instances it makes good sense to use a mediator who is also an attorney. An attorney/mediator who specializes in divorce law will be knowledgeable of the divorce statutes and case law, and can (and should) share that information with clients. Then, when the couple is ready to proceed with having their settlement agreement drafted, the attorney can prepare the agreement for them.
It’s That Time of Year for Getting Engaged or Getting Divorced
{3:06 minutes to read} There are two trends that occur at the end of each year, and into the beginning months of the following year. One has to do with the demise of a marriage, and the other with the commitment to marry. While these are clearly opposite aspects of “coupled” life, they share a common factor that influences the outcome of each.
How Long Does Mediation Take?
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When I first meet with my clients, they often ask me how long the divorce mediation process will take. My answer is: it depends. In reality, it depends on any number of different factors, such as:
- How complex their issues are;
What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting?
{3:12 minutes to read} There are two basic concepts that describe the way in which parents raise their children following a divorce. These approaches are significantly different, and in fact, are at opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. One approach is referred to as Cooperative Parenting and the other as Parallel Parenting.
How Should Divorcing Couples Approach Their Parenting Plan Discussions?
{3:06 minutes to read} For couples who have children and are divorcing, there’s no more important subject to discuss than their parenting arrangements post-divorce. As we are working in mediation, my couples sometimes ask if there is a best parenting plan that they should adopt and follow. The short answer to that question is no.…
What are the Foundational Requirements for Mediation?
{2:48 minutes to read} When you take it down to the bare bones, there are really only two essential elements that must be present in order for a mediation to be viable and ultimately productive: Willingness to Dialogue and Full Disclosure.
Willingness to Dialogue
First, there needs to be a basic willingness to come together and talk to each other.
5 Key Elements of the Mediation Process
{2:48 minutes to read} There are two principal aspects to the role a mediator plays when helping couples going through divorce mediation. One has to do with the process and the other has to do with the substance.
Process relates to the framework and ground rules that are established by the mediator so that the necessary conversations can take place and move along, ultimately to resolution.
Further Thoughts on Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi
{2:00 minutes to read} Recently, I published an article entitled Mediation and the Japanese Art of Kintsugi. In my article I shared a wonderful metaphor of beauty and strength, demonstrated by the “golden” repairs the old Japanese masters made to their bowls and other pottery when these pieces were damaged.
In a comment on my blog, a colleague asked if I was familiar with the song “Japanese Bowl,” written by Peter Mayer.
6 Basic Tips for Handling Conflict
{3:06 minutes to read} While conflict in our lives is inevitable, how we handle it is ultimately our choice. That’s true whether we’re dealing with conflict in our private lives (with our partner, children, other family members, friends) or in our work lives (with our colleagues or other professionals).
