Category Archives: Conflict

What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce?

What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{Read in 1:10 minutes}  A mediation colleague of mine, Rachel Alexander, recently posted an excellent blog explaining why mediation is the best process for divorcing couples, especially when each of the parties is at a different stage of wanting, or not wanting, the divorce.

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What are the 4 Elements of Divorce?

What are the 4 Elements of Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{3:30 minutes to read}  When most people are going through a divorce they don’t think about the various elements that come into play during this difficult process. They are often overwhelmed with emotions (anger, resentment and sadness, among them) that come up during this extremely difficult time of their lives.

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Whatever Happened to Civility?

Whatever Happened to Civility? by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}     I’ve been thinking a lot recently about Civility, especially with everything that’s been going on in the U.S. political arena and the stark difference between the two presidential candidates. I suspect that young people today may not even recognize the word or know what being “civil” actually means. It has fallen out of use in today’s world.

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Divorce Mediation and the Communication Trap

Divorce Mediation and the Communication Trap By Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  Earlier this year, one of my mediation couples was in the middle of a discussion as to how they were going to divide their financial assets. They had agreed to divide their bank and investment accounts equally and each retain their own retirement accounts. They then turned to the subject of the annual bonus the husband was scheduled to receive from his employer at the end of December.

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Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}   What’s so special about divorce mediation? Plenty! Check out these Questions and Answers and you’ll understand why mediation may be the best choice for a divorcing couple.

What is divorce mediation?

It is a voluntary settlement process used by couples who want to separate or divorce.

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Divorce Mediation and the Pigeonhole Effect

Divorce Mediation and the Pigeonhole Effect

{2:36 minutes to read}  Often people, especially divorce litigators, have a tendency to “pigeonhole” divorce mediation as being only effective in limited situations. For example, I recently attended a panel discussion presented by the Family and Divorce Mediation Council, an organization of divorce mediators in the greater New York area, to which I belong. The subject was the Anatomy of a Divorce Litigation. The panel consisted of 3 individuals—a judge, a court attorney referee, and an attorney whose practice focuses solely on contested divorces (that is, those that are litigated).

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Common Bonds Between Mediation and Hostage Negotiation

Common Bonds Between Mediation and Hostage Negotiation By Susan Ingram

{2:43 minutes to read}  I recently attended a symposium in New York City that was presented by the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation. The first presenter, Lt. Jack Cambria, retired from the NYPD after 33 years of service. His final and most important position was that of chief hostage negotiator for NYPD’s elite hostage negotiation team.

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Thoughts on Thanksgiving and Gratitude

Thoughts on Thanksgiving and Gratitude By Susan Ingram

{4:36 minutes to read}  Here I am sitting at my computer on the night before the Thanksgiving holiday trying to pull together my divergent thoughts and find the appropriate words to write this blog on the subject of Gratitude. I’m finding this task especially challenging this year, given the events over the past two weeks beginning with the terror attacks in Paris. Everything we hear and read in the news seems to underscore the violence, despair and fear that exist throughout the world. On a global scale, it’s hard for me, and I’m sure many others, not to feel overwhelmed by the sheer negativity of these events.

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