What is an Uncontested Divorce? [VIDEO]
When couples divorce, they need to resolve important issues related to the ending of their marriage, such as dividing their assets and determining what their parenting arrangements will be. When a couple proceeds with divorce mediation, they’ve chosen to make these decisions on their own, with the help of the mediator. This is referred to as an uncontested divorce.
Co-Parenting Vs Parallel Parenting [VIDEO]
When parents are separated or divorced, there are two basic approaches that describe the way
they’re raising their children:
- Cooperative or Co-Parenting
- Parallel Parenting
A Good Mediator is Sensitive to Imbalances of Power [VIDEO]
A basic requirement of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial. At the same time, the mediator must be attentive to any power imbalances that exist between the parties. Even though a neutral, the mediator will support the person with less power or knowledge so that he or she can participate fully…
What You Should Look For in a Divorce Mediator [VIDEO]
When deciding on a divorce mediator, there are certain qualities you should look for. These include:
- Training
- Experience
- Commitment
- How much time they spend exclusively in mediation
How Long Does Mediation Last? [VIDEO]
The first thing clients often want to know is how long the divorce mediation process will take. My answer is, it depends on any number of different factors, including:
- How complex their issues are;
- If they have children or not;
- If they’re both on the same page as to the ending of their relationship.
What Are the 2 Essential Requirements for Mediation? [VIDEO]
There are really only 2 key requirements for a successful divorce mediation:
- A willingness of the participants to dialogue, and
- Full disclosure of financial and other relevant information.
Power Imbalances in Divorce Mediation
{2:30 minutes to read} One of the basic requirements of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial. Certainly, this means that the mediator should not be taking sides or favoring either party. But it also means that the mediator may need to be more directive at times to ensure the integrity of the parties’ decision-making.
On Seeing Clearly…and New Perspectives
The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes,
but in having new eyes.
– Marcel Proust
{3 minutes to read} Over the past two months, I’ve had cataract surgery on both of my eyes. In the United States and other developed countries, this surgery is quite routine and typically related to the aging process. It is performed on patients when the natural lens of the eye starts to thicken and become cloudy, thus preventing them from seeing clearly. The surgeon replaces the faulty lens with a new artificial lens — and voilà — the patient can see clearly again!
Omni-Partiality and Power Imbalances in Mediation
{2:30 minutes to read} For over a decade I’ve had a practice that focuses exclusively on divorce and family mediation. Much of the training when I first started my practice emphasized the importance of the mediator being neutral and impartial.
Teaching Children to Have Healthy Arguments
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These increasingly tense political times have ushered in a period of animosity and lack of discourse that is distressing to many people, including those of us who work in the field of conflict resolution. During this past year, I’ve been thinking quite a bit about how we can maintain our humanity and civility while we are constantly being battered (from our President on down) with displays of abusive and self-serving conduct.
