Category Archives: Communication

What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting?

What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting? By Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  There are two basic concepts that describe the way in which parents raise their children following a divorce. These approaches are significantly different, and in fact, are at opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. One approach is referred to as Cooperative Parenting and the other as Parallel Parenting.

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What are the Foundational Requirements for Mediation?

{2:48 minutes to read}  When you take it down to the bare bones, there are really only two essential elements that must be present in order for a mediation to be viable and ultimately productive: Willingness to Dialogue and Full Disclosure.

Willingness to Dialogue

First, there needs to be a basic willingness to come together and talk to each other.

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5 Key Elements of the Mediation Process

Susan Ingram, Esq of www.susan-ingram.com discusses the divorce mediation process and a mediator's role in it.

{2:48 minutes to read}  There are two principal aspects to the role a mediator plays when helping couples going through divorce mediation. One has to do with the process and the other has to do with the substance.

Process relates to the framework and ground rules that are established by the mediator so that the necessary conversations can take place and move along, ultimately to resolution.

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6 Basic Tips for Handling Conflict

6 Basic Tips for Handling Conflict by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  While conflict in our lives is inevitable, how we handle it is ultimately our choice. That’s true whether we’re dealing with conflict in our private lives (with our partner, children, other family members, friends) or in our work lives (with our colleagues or other professionals).

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The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible

The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible by Susan Ingram

{3:00 minutes to read}  The discussions I lead my couples through in mediation need to be structured, but they also need to be open to “fluid thinking.” By that, I mean the type of thinking that allows for the continued interplay between the various decisions that must be made.

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How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce?

How Do I Tell My Spouse I Want a Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{4:24 minutes to read}  Not infrequently, when someone first calls me to discuss the possibility of divorce mediation, they will mention that they have not yet brought up the subject with their spouse. The caller (the initiating spouse) typically describes a marriage that has not been good for some time; the marriage no longer works for him or her and it needs to come to an end.

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Mediation Helps Couples Successfully Untangle Their Lives

Mediation Helps Couples Successfully Untangle Their Lives by Susan Ingram

{1:42 minutes to read}  “Never cut what you can untie.” Joseph Joubert, French essayist   This aphorism came to my attention recently when one of my colleagues was giving a presentation at our annual conference for the NYS Council on Divorce Mediation. I was immediately struck by the wisdom contained in its 6 simple words.

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How Is Mediation Different From Therapy?

How Is Mediation Different From Therapy? by Susan Ingram

{3:24 minutes to read}  Both mediators and therapists play important roles in helping couples who are experiencing difficulties in their marriage. When couples come to me for divorce mediation, I find that at least half of them have spent time, recently or in the past, working together with a therapist to try to save their marriage. I certainly view this as a positive sign. At least the couple has tried to work through the issues in their marriage, even if it didn’t ultimately work out.

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Can a Mediator be Omnipartial?

Divorce and Family Mediator, Susan Ingram, discusses maintaing impartiality while keeping parties balanced and informed during the mediation process.

{1:00 minutes to read}  I explained in my last article that I would be reposting two earlier blogs on the subject of mediator impartiality, since this topic is of great interest to clients and professionals alike. The second blog was entitled “Can Mediators be Impartial and Address an Imbalance of Power?

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