Category Archives: Communication

Power Imbalances in Divorce Mediation

Power Imbalances in Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read} One of the basic requirements of divorce mediation is that the mediator be neutral and impartial. Certainly, this means that the mediator should not be taking sides or favoring either party. But it also means that the mediator may need to be more directive at times to ensure the integrity of the parties’ decision-making.

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Why Are Budgets Necessary in Divorce Mediation?

Why Are Budgets Necessary in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

{3 minutes to read}  Budget preparation, ugh! I know… even in the best of times, this is not exactly an enjoyable task that people look forward to. Yet, it’s something that is absolutely imperative when a couple is separating or divorcing.

When I first meet with couples, I review the main topics that we will be discussing during the mediation process.

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On Seeing Clearly…and New Perspectives

Cataracts, Clarity, Gratitude, Cataract Operation, Cataract Surgery by Susan Ingram

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes,
but in having new eyes.
– Marcel Proust

{3 minutes to read}  Over the past two months, I’ve had cataract surgery on both of my eyes. In the United States and other developed countries, this surgery is quite routine and typically related to the aging process. It is performed on patients when the natural lens of the eye starts to thicken and become cloudy, thus preventing them from seeing clearly. The surgeon replaces the faulty lens with a new artificial lens — and voilà — the patient can see clearly again!

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The “What-If?” Scenarios

The “What-If?” Scenarios by Susan Ingram

{4 minutes to read}  One of the most important functions I can perform for my divorcing clients is to help them work through the various “What If?” scenarios as they make their decisions in mediation. A “What If?” scenario is an exploration of various possible outcomes to a question that has been raised in regard to an important issue. Exploring the options will facilitate reaching the best decision for a couple.

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Life Lessons from a Knee Operation – Part 1

Life Lessons from a Knee Operation - Part 1 by Susan Ingram

{5 minutes to read}

My body has been teaching me a very powerful lesson that I am still in the process of deciphering. Although my thoughts are still percolating, I’d like to share my initial challenges and insights with you, my readers.

This part of my journey started about 4 months ago when I had an operation to have total knee replacement on both of my knees.

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Teaching Children to Have Healthy Arguments

Teaching Children to Have Healthy Arguments by Susan Ingram

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These increasingly tense political times have ushered in a period of animosity and lack of discourse that is distressing to many people, including those of us who work in the field of conflict resolution. During this past year, I’ve been thinking quite a bit about how we can maintain our humanity and civility while we are constantly being battered (from our President on down) with displays of abusive and self-serving conduct.

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Empathy or Sympathy: What’s the Difference?

{2:54 minutes to read}  With all the conflict and negativity in the world right now, I feel like a refresher blog on the subject of empathy is in order. I came upon this short video, The Power of Empathy, four years ago. It continues to be as delightful and fresh as when it first appeared. And, it accomplishes its task in only 3 short minutes of viewing time! So I invite you to click on the image below, enjoy the video, and then continue with the rest of my article.

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