Category Archives: Children & Divorce

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}   What’s so special about divorce mediation? Plenty! Check out these Questions and Answers and you’ll understand why mediation may be the best choice for a divorcing couple.

What is divorce mediation?

It is a voluntary settlement process used by couples who want to separate or divorce.

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Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation?

Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  I just had a prospective client call me (I’ll call her Kate, and her husband Doug) to ask about divorce mediation. She told me I was highly recommended by another client of mine, and that she and her husband really wanted to mediate their divorce, but that she needed to consult with a divorce attorney first. When I asked why she felt that way, she replied, “All of my friends tell me I need to see a divorce attorney to know what my rights are.”

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Divorce Mediation: Putting Together the Pieces of a Puzzle

Divorce Mediation: Putting Together the Pieces of a Puzzle by Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read}  When I first meet with my mediation clients I explain that, through the course of our sessions, they will be making decisions concerning many important issues, including:

  • Dividing the funds in their retirement accounts
  • Sharing parenting time with their children
  • Paying child support and other expenses for the children
  • Keeping the marital home or selling it
  • Paying maintenance (alimony) to a spouse
  • Filing for divorce immediately, or waiting for a period of time

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Putting Post-Divorce Mediation to Good Use

Putting Post-Divorce Mediation to Good Use by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  Once my couples have made their various decisions during our mediation sessions, I proceed to draft their settlement agreement. This is the document that memorializes everything they’re agreed upon.

It’s important for the agreement to be as detailed as possible, to avoid problems in the future. Yet, especially when a couple will be living under the agreement for many years (such as when they have young children), it also needs to provide some flexibility for future changes.

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Finding the Parenting Plan That Is the “Right Fit”

Finding the Parenting Plan That Is the “Right Fit” by Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read}   I received a call earlier this week from Jane*, a potential mediation client. During our chat, I proceeded to describe the mediation process and the issues we would be addressing. When I asked Jane if she had any specific concerns she would like me to address, she revealed that she was worried about the tentative parenting arrangement she had worked out with her husband for their 5-year-old son, Benjamin*.

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Thoughts on Thanksgiving and Gratitude

Thoughts on Thanksgiving and Gratitude By Susan Ingram

{4:36 minutes to read}  Here I am sitting at my computer on the night before the Thanksgiving holiday trying to pull together my divergent thoughts and find the appropriate words to write this blog on the subject of Gratitude. I’m finding this task especially challenging this year, given the events over the past two weeks beginning with the terror attacks in Paris. Everything we hear and read in the news seems to underscore the violence, despair and fear that exist throughout the world. On a global scale, it’s hard for me, and I’m sure many others, not to feel overwhelmed by the sheer negativity of these events.

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Children and Chronic Illness: Type 1 Diabetes

Children and Chronic Illness: Type 1 Diabetes By Susan Ingram

{4:30 minutes to read}  The NY Times recently published a detailed article on how school systems in the U.S. are failing to adequately care for students with Type 1 diabetes. What an eye-opener this was! And it’s because I know quite a bit about this subject that it was even more of an eye opener for me. How did I come to be so knowledgeable about this issue? Here is a little background information.

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Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting: Which Approach Is Best for Your Family?

Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting: Which Approach Is Best for Your Family? By Susan Ingram

{3:02 minutes to read}  In my last blog, I talked about some of the challenges that separating and divorcing couples face when they are putting together a parenting plan for their children. Now I would like to explore the two basic approaches that parents can take when creating their parenting plans. One is referred to as Cooperative Parenting and the other as Parallel Parenting.

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Divorcing Couples and the Parenting Plan Balancing Act

Divorcing Couples and the Parenting Plan Balancing Act By Susan Ingram

{3:18 minutes to read}  For separating and divorcing parents, often the biggest concern they have is how their children will fare through this difficult process and going forward.

While none of us can look into our crystal ball and predict the future, it is clear from research that the #1 factor that causes harm to the children of divorcing couples is the amount of conflict between their parents. The more intense the conflict, the greater the likelihood of harm to the children.

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The Children’s Bill of Rights

The Children’s Bill of Rights By Susan Ingram

{3:42 minutes to read}  Many of the couples I see in my divorce mediation practice have children. Not surprisingly, I find that some parents are more able than others to keep their conflict separate from their relationship with the children. Understandably, this is no small feat, given all of the emotions, anxieties and fears that can arise during this challenging transition from married to separated/divorced.

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