Category Archives: Children & Divorce

Parenting Arrangements for Special Needs Children

Parenting Arrangements for Special Needs Children by Susan Ingram

{3:32 minutes to read}  When I’m mediating with parents who have a special needs child, I view myself as being on a “fact finding mission.” What do I mean by that? In addition to performing my other mediator responsibilities, my role is to gather as much information as I can about the couple’s special needs child, and how that child’s disability relates to each of the parents’ lives, as well as to any other siblings in the family. Clearly, these family relationships are often more complex than families without a special needs child.

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Special Needs Children and Parenting Discussions

Special Needs Children and Parenting Discussions by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  When couples with normal-developing kids are separating or divorcing, we can spend quite a bit of time during mediation discussing their parenting arrangements. Among the many subjects that need to be addressed are: what the weekday and weekend parenting schedule will look like; how scheduling for holidays and summer vacations will be handled; and in what ways the scheduling may need to reflect the specific work circumstances of the parents.

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Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children

A disabled child in a wheelchair with a care assistant going for a walk

{3:12 minutes to read}   I just finished a mediation session with a divorcing couple who have a special needs child, in addition to two typically-developing children. While divorces involving special needs children are often complicated and involve more issues than the “normal” divorce, I find helping these families to be especially rewarding.

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Children and Divorce – Why Mediation is Better

Children and Divorce - Why Mediation is Better by Susan Ingram

{3:36 minutes to read}  Last week, I heard Dr. Robert Emery speak at a symposium on parenting and divorce sponsored by FamilyKind, the NY Chapter of AFCC and Hofstra University School of Law. I was so pleased to have the opportunity to hear about his insightful and continuing work with divorcing families and their children.

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What are the 4 Elements of Divorce?

What are the 4 Elements of Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{3:30 minutes to read}  When most people are going through a divorce they don’t think about the various elements that come into play during this difficult process. They are often overwhelmed with emotions (anger, resentment and sadness, among them) that come up during this extremely difficult time of their lives.

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Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process

Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process by Susan Ingram

{3:48 minutes to read}   Divorce mediation, as opposed to a contested divorce (in which each spouse hires an attorney and fights it out through the court system), is often a better choice for couples. When a couple decides to divorce, they need to begin the process of “disentangling” from each other. They can either approach this task in a humane and constructive way (which mediation supports), or they can let it degenerate into increased anger and animosity (which litigation often results in).

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Helping Parents Raise Well-Adjusted Children

Helping Parents Raise Well-Adjusted Children by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}    The NY Times published a recent opinion, entitled “To Help Kids Thrive, Coach Their Parents,” which I found especially interesting. The author, Paul Tough, referenced a number of studies that have been conducted over the years with respect to children’s development and well-being, demonstrating the positive role that coaching for parents can have in their children’s development.

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Divorcing Parents and Their Emancipated Children

Divorcing Parents and Their Emancipated Children by Susan Ingram

{2:36 minutes to read}   If divorcing parents have children, the divorce law of the state in which they reside will determine the amount of child support that must be paid for the children’s basic and additional expenses. The state law will also specify until what age the parents are required to support their children.

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Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}   What’s so special about divorce mediation? Plenty! Check out these Questions and Answers and you’ll understand why mediation may be the best choice for a divorcing couple.

What is divorce mediation?

It is a voluntary settlement process used by couples who want to separate or divorce.

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Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation?

Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  I just had a prospective client call me (I’ll call her Kate, and her husband Doug) to ask about divorce mediation. She told me I was highly recommended by another client of mine, and that she and her husband really wanted to mediate their divorce, but that she needed to consult with a divorce attorney first. When I asked why she felt that way, she replied, “All of my friends tell me I need to see a divorce attorney to know what my rights are.”

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