Category Archives: Children & Divorce

Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children

Divorcing Parents and Their Special Needs Children by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}   I just finished a mediation session with a divorcing couple who have a special needs child, in addition to two typically-developing children. While divorces involving special needs children are often complicated and involve more issues than the “normal” divorce, I find helping these families to be especially rewarding.

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Children and Divorce – Why Mediation is Better

Children and Divorce - Why Mediation is Better by Susan Ingram

{3:36 minutes to read}  Last week, I heard Dr. Robert Emery speak at a symposium on parenting and divorce sponsored by FamilyKind, the NY Chapter of AFCC and Hofstra University School of Law. I was so pleased to have the opportunity to hear about his insightful and continuing work with divorcing families and their children.

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What are the 4 Elements of Divorce?

What are the 4 Elements of Divorce? by Susan Ingram

{3:30 minutes to read}  When most people are going through a divorce they don’t think about the various elements that come into play during this difficult process. They are often overwhelmed with emotions (anger, resentment and sadness, among them) that come up during this extremely difficult time of their lives.

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Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process

Untangling Lives: The Divorce Mediation Process by Susan Ingram

{3:48 minutes to read}   Divorce mediation, as opposed to a contested divorce (in which each spouse hires an attorney and fights it out through the court system), is often a better choice for couples. When a couple decides to divorce, they need to begin the process of “disentangling” from each other. They can either approach this task in a humane and constructive way (which mediation supports), or they can let it degenerate into increased anger and animosity (which litigation often results in).

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Helping Parents Raise Well-Adjusted Children

Helping Parents Raise Well-Adjusted Children by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}    The NY Times published a recent opinion, entitled “To Help Kids Thrive, Coach Their Parents,” which I found especially interesting. The author, Paul Tough, referenced a number of studies that have been conducted over the years with respect to children’s development and well-being, demonstrating the positive role that coaching for parents can have in their children’s development.

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Divorcing Parents and Their Emancipated Children

Divorcing Parents and Their Emancipated Children by Susan Ingram

{2:36 minutes to read}   If divorcing parents have children, the divorce law of the state in which they reside will determine the amount of child support that must be paid for the children’s basic and additional expenses. The state law will also specify until what age the parents are required to support their children.

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Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation by Susan Ingram

{4:12 minutes to read}   What’s so special about divorce mediation? Plenty! Check out these Questions and Answers and you’ll understand why mediation may be the best choice for a divorcing couple.

What is divorce mediation?

It is a voluntary settlement process used by couples who want to separate or divorce.

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Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation?

Do You Need a Consulting Attorney in Divorce Mediation? by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  I just had a prospective client call me (I’ll call her Kate, and her husband Doug) to ask about divorce mediation. She told me I was highly recommended by another client of mine, and that she and her husband really wanted to mediate their divorce, but that she needed to consult with a divorce attorney first. When I asked why she felt that way, she replied, “All of my friends tell me I need to see a divorce attorney to know what my rights are.”

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Divorce Mediation: Putting Together the Pieces of a Puzzle

Divorce Mediation: Putting Together the Pieces of a Puzzle by Susan Ingram

{2:30 minutes to read}  When I first meet with my mediation clients I explain that, through the course of our sessions, they will be making decisions concerning many important issues, including:

  • Dividing the funds in their retirement accounts
  • Sharing parenting time with their children
  • Paying child support and other expenses for the children
  • Keeping the marital home or selling it
  • Paying maintenance (alimony) to a spouse
  • Filing for divorce immediately, or waiting for a period of time

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Putting Post-Divorce Mediation to Good Use

Putting Post-Divorce Mediation to Good Use by Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  Once my couples have made their various decisions during our mediation sessions, I proceed to draft their settlement agreement. This is the document that memorializes everything they’re agreed upon.

It’s important for the agreement to be as detailed as possible, to avoid problems in the future. Yet, especially when a couple will be living under the agreement for many years (such as when they have young children), it also needs to provide some flexibility for future changes.

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