Category Archives: Children & Divorce

Divorcing Parents and College Costs

Divorcing Parents and College Costs by Susan Ingram

{3:30 minutes to read}    One of the most challenging issues for parents who have college-age children is how to handle the costs of their college education. This is a subject that has become more complicated in recent years as the cost of a college education continues to rise significantly. Estimated costs for yearly tuition and room and board for a state-run school are $20,000. Those same costs at a private college are typically anywhere from $45,000 to $80,000 or more.

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What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting?

What is the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting? By Susan Ingram

{3:12 minutes to read}  There are two basic concepts that describe the way in which parents raise their children following a divorce. These approaches are significantly different, and in fact, are at opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. One approach is referred to as Cooperative Parenting and the other as Parallel Parenting.

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How Should Divorcing Couples Approach Their Parenting Plan Discussions?

How Should Divorcing Couples Approach Their Parenting Plan Discussions? by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read} For couples who have children and are divorcing, there’s no more important subject to discuss than their parenting arrangements post-divorce. As we are working in mediation, my couples sometimes ask if there is a best parenting plan that they should adopt and follow. The short answer to that question is no.…

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The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible

The Mediation Process – Both Structured and Flexible by Susan Ingram

{3:00 minutes to read}  The discussions I lead my couples through in mediation need to be structured, but they also need to be open to “fluid thinking.” By that, I mean the type of thinking that allows for the continued interplay between the various decisions that must be made.

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Mediation Helps Couples Successfully Untangle Their Lives

Mediation Helps Couples Successfully Untangle Their Lives by Susan Ingram

{1:42 minutes to read}  “Never cut what you can untie.” Joseph Joubert, French essayist   This aphorism came to my attention recently when one of my colleagues was giving a presentation at our annual conference for the NYS Council on Divorce Mediation. I was immediately struck by the wisdom contained in its 6 simple words.

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Why is Mediation Often the Best Choice for Divorcing Couples?

Divorce and family mediator, Susan Ingram, shares her 9 top reasons she chooses divorce mediation over litigation.

{4:06 minutes to read}  There are many reasons for couples to choose to mediate their divorce as opposed to proceeding with a contested/litigated process. Below I discuss the top 9 reasons why divorce mediation is typically the best choice:

1. Expense: Mediation is much less costly than litigation.

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Divorce Financial Considerations with a Special Needs Child

Divorce Financial Considerations with a Special Needs Child by Susan Ingram

{4:18 minutes to read}  In my last blog, I discussed the governmental benefits that are available to a child or young adult with special needs. When I meet with my couples in divorce mediation, I need to first make sure they understand the public benefits their child is entitled to and then also discuss how these benefits relate to the many expenses (some covered by governmental benefits, some not) that arise when parents are raising a special needs child.

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Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child

Governmental Benefits and the Special Needs Child By Susan Ingram

{2:48 minutes to read}  In my next blog I will be discussing the various financial issues that affect the parents of a special needs child who are divorcing. Before doing that, however, I first need to describe the basic framework of governmental services and benefits that are provided to children and young adults with disabilities.

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Parenting Arrangements for Special Needs Children

Parenting Arrangements for Special Needs Children by Susan Ingram

{3:32 minutes to read}  When I’m mediating with parents who have a special needs child, I view myself as being on a “fact finding mission.” What do I mean by that? In addition to performing my other mediator responsibilities, my role is to gather as much information as I can about the couple’s special needs child, and how that child’s disability relates to each of the parents’ lives, as well as to any other siblings in the family. Clearly, these family relationships are often more complex than families without a special needs child.

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Special Needs Children and Parenting Discussions

Special Needs Children and Parenting Discussions by Susan Ingram

{3:06 minutes to read}  When couples with normal-developing kids are separating or divorcing, we can spend quite a bit of time during mediation discussing their parenting arrangements. Among the many subjects that need to be addressed are: what the weekday and weekend parenting schedule will look like; how scheduling for holidays and summer vacations will be handled; and in what ways the scheduling may need to reflect the specific work circumstances of the parents.

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